How to deal with Trauma #30

How to deal with Trauma #30

“Everlasting touch” by Kimberly JoNell #30

Tagline: “Compassion, kindness, connection, empathy & love will carry throughout human civilization”

What an incredibly beautiful soul Kimberly JoNell is.

A woman who has faced her biggest fears, of losing her friend, both parents and her belongings to Hurricane Katrina. A lady who spends every waking hour serving others, with no expectation of receiving anything back. A graceful individual who focuses on making the world a better place for children, teenagers and all those who experience trauma to some level in their lives. I am forever grateful to have shared an hour with Kimberly as I genuinely believed I learnt so much from her story, her experience, her wisdom and knowledge. She is someone who has shown me I have yet so many further steps to travel. But she also showed me that I was right in what I was doing.

We must all live to and through our own purpose. We must become self-aware and recognise our own beauties and become in touch with ourselves so that we can then leave an everlasting touch to the rest of the world.

It was also the first time I have ever shown clips of the episode prior to launching because I have genuinely never felt such a connection with someone, whose message is so pure, authentic and sincere. I urge you all to support this amazing lady and follow her incredible journey on the links shown below.

Some key discussion points:

  1. How to become more self-aware
  2. The importance of self-love
  3. Facing and overcoming adversity
  4. Intent and sincerity
  5. Living with energy and inspiration
  6. Importance of being curious

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Pippa Transcript:

welcome to an episode of find your voice a movement led by yours truly Aren Deu a guy who was overcome crippling anxiety adversity and difficulty like so many of you in life whose main goal now is to help you combat your excuses take control of your life write your own story and most importantly find your voice so now without further ado I welcome the host of the show himself Mr Aren Deu what’s going on people thank you for tuning into another episode of find your voice my name is iron and as always I am the host of the show so today I am bringing you Kimberly JoNell somebody who who got me through the interview to state this was actually the greatest three minutes dot ever experience so far %HESITATION find your voice maybe that is because it’s something that resonated with me somewhat more than maybe it will with yourselves but what I will say is that that three minutes completely changed the way that I see people in the way that I did not carry out my life and again this is why I’m not trying to move the show a little bit more towards because I’m very conscious that we can all get inspired and motivated by hearing all these stories of people overcoming adversity and going through the trials and tribulations but still remaining positive is still persevering but what I want to start to do not %HESITATION is trying to ask each of my guess a couple of tips a couple of things that we can take away so last week you had the incredible tale that give us the clay act message and that was fantastic and in fact what you’ve been doing that for the last two weeks and Kimberly crops are owner gets and these looks absolutely incredible and I would just want to say it once again my gratitude to committee for taking time out of a day I certainly learned so much and realize that this personal development Jedi dom on I have so much further to go pretty speedy forty six it’s exciting and I’m really enjoying the process and hopefully you guys I’ve come along on the journey as well are enjoying it too so without further ado let’s get this interview on the way okay so firstly I just wanna thank Kimberly for taking time out of a day to come when I show today and be quite enough to share his story as she’s actually have podcaster herself a business owner a trauma specialist which is actually something I’m really interested to hear more about a community I reach and youth health educator SO very excited for this opportunity she’s on the other side of the road actually so we are connected via Skype which is fantastic in this is kind of the thing that podcasting kind bring to the surface so before we begin can really how you doing today I’m awesome just excited to be here and and and opportunity to talk with you and the rest of your listeners thank you so much for taking the time and having me here today I appreciate it you’re very welcome thank you too as well for taking time out your day so it’s quite easy for me it’s ten o’clock here in the U. K. and parties even a free use of bless you for having to deal with me rambling gone in the morning so %HESITATION I’m a morning person luckily for you saw my so hopefully this will be plain sailing I think it’s going to be important for my listeners to get to know your story a little bit from yourself so if you wouldn’t mind can belief you kind of just give us I suppose a summary of of your life some things of by you have basically what brings you here today thank you sure so %HESITATION I grew up in a small town outside of Cincinnati Ohio Colerain township and I both of my parents live in the household with me my dad was a truck driver my mother was a stay at home mom and essentially I had a pretty %HESITATION pretty interesting childhood I went back and forth between Louisiana during my summers and %HESITATION didn’t really have a lot of extended family in the city where we lived only child so that definitely I provided a lot of insight for me growing up in terms of spending a lot of time alone and I think it has developed a lot within me where I’m pretty self to pay and then in terms of with my self awareness %HESITATION most of my childhood friends I’m still very close to now but there were a lot of experiences I had throughout my childhood and teenage years which brought a lot of curiosity for B. into the things that I’m interested in now %HESITATION I particularly had several relatives in my life who had special needs and the growing up in the nineteen eighties you really did not have a lot of explanation or information available as to what special needs wise what developmental delays wire and throughout my high school years I began to read up a lot more about it I had a cousin in particular that had autism %HESITATION and so I developed an interest in that and I eventually started studying speech pathology in college and I found out from that from that field that we work with individuals who have ox is M. we work with individuals who have other developmental delays that and then we will also serve children who have articulation delays language delays stuttering all of those different facets in childhood there’s other rounds of speech pathology as well so part of my %HESITATION my background in that is from some of the early experiences in exposures I had with people who had a developmental delays or cognitive delays so that was sent that was of a big passion of mine early on %HESITATION I’m passionate about electronics and if anybody files my Instagram page they’ll see that I’m usually into a lot of different things but %HESITATION I enjoy anything dealing with technology being here for forty years now I have observed so many revolutionary things that have been brought to the %HESITATION into the space with regards to technology advancements the internet %HESITATION and now we’re involving %HESITATION evolving into a lot of other things in terms of digital currency %HESITATION I was just reading an article last night about a timeless vehicles so I’m just I’m just a very curious person to being only child I didn’t really have a lot of friends early on and I spent a lot of time by myself so curiosity just drives me %HESITATION I’m incredibly grateful I I went through a lot of very difficult situations early on in life I’m I witnessed %HESITATION a violent incident in my early twenties which shaped a lot of things for me %HESITATION I had a very close friend of mine in my early twenties that was killed so that shaped a lot for me as well %HESITATION during my last year of college I’m last right before after graduation from college my family in Dort hurricane Katrina %HESITATION which was a mass of hurricane that impacted the Louisiana and Gulf coast area of the United States and throughout that process I lost everything I had because most of my things were in Louisiana at the time and I was living in a different state so I had the indoor loss %HESITATION several times throughout my life and then two years later both of my parents passed away unexpectedly so sorry to hear that %HESITATION well you know it it does those challenges are things that so many of us have to go through and %HESITATION and and back to that just with my parents that was a huge motivator for me as well in terms of getting into the mental health field at because I did have a lot of observation throughout my childhood with people in my family who struggle with mental health issues and at that time no one really gave it a label but you kind of just observe things that were happening around you and then also observing things that happen within myself as a teenager I struggled a lot with anxiety I struggle out was depression I think that was around the first time in my life and maybe around seventeen or eighteen when I really started to feel what depression felt like and %HESITATION so as I got older I really began to try to understand more about and it wasn’t until after my parents passed away that I would there be and it really I mean I am a huge advocate for therapy for people now so that brought me into the mental health realm of where I am now with helping people in the community outreach with trauma and %HESITATION I’ve taken mindfulness training to try to assist people with that area of their life as well so I’m all over the place but I have many many passions and it it is what keeps me going and just being able to provide something of value to to to the world why what a story so you’ve definitely exceeded my expectations already in the so many things I actually own a car from that story so face the odds I just love your I chewed because for somebody who’s in George so much loss not just only with your friend be a Paris which you know I I send my deepest condolences for %HESITATION you you have such a brilliant attitude that you are grateful for the difficult situations in your life and this is literally it’s almost like if I had to think of a perfect guest to have a my show Kimberly you would be that guess because I want people to realize that the calls that would tell in life because we choose and sometimes it works sometimes it bad and it’s about having to overcome the adversity and almost used adversity is a gift and you’ve you’ve taken on all these obstacles in your life and not what you’re doing is you’re saving others and you’ll fulfilling yourself your happiness and I and I just loved about you that you you send for instance your cousin who’s suffered with autism and you said I need to understand is a little bit better and you’ve dived into that topic and now you’re trying to make a difference for people free speech pathology that you mentioned and I like that your all over the place I love that because for some people it’s quite common for them to kind of thing that I need to be an expert in one field will kind of stick to one lane I love a lot yourself I am very chaotic my mind is all over the place I am into property on one side I mean to podcast into his by the board in one place I am also an advocate of children’s as struggling so my younger brother has wound isn’t as well and I was a social worker in my past life so there’s a lot of things I can and resonate with you even with the depression my mom suffered a depression some trying to start a social enterprise to raise awareness so I wish I had more of me or more of you actually could you have so much more awareness to me that we could almost in the short amount of time that we have one in this bill would make such a positive difference and I mean even the hurricane Katrina that was big news over here in the U. K. is about that experience Dynegy spoken to somebody who’s lived out means it’s one thing seen on the television on and if you wouldn’t mind because it’s quite unique topic could you just maybe run through that area to what it was like in terms of how you’re feeling and what you have to do I’ll absolutely ads for me I moved actually I graduated from college in may of two thousand five I was attending a college in Louisiana New Orleans and I actually have an apartment in east New Orleans I received a job offer to move to Georgia and two weeks after I packed up my storage unit in just packed up probably a suitcase full of belongings intro to Atlanta Katrina hit all of my family and friends were still there the first thing I could think of in terms of just describe my my emotions was powerless I had a friend who was a nurse and %HESITATION one of the hospitals in the north the the uptown area of New Orleans she was trapped in the hole in the hospital %HESITATION I have family members who were trapped in the lower ninth ward I’m I remember being at work because I was working as a speech pathologist at the time I’m sitting in my office texting my friend who was a nurse in the hospital during apple after the hurricane that hit the levy said broke in the water it flooded the city her phone was literally the only phone on that floor her hospital they had no electricity no power I was texting her in telling her what was happening because they had no idea that the levy said broke they knew the hurricane hit they were out of power and she was in the hospital where a lot of people died because a lot of the hospital patients who did not have power for the the hospital equipment %HESITATION it was it was in a %HESITATION deal that I will never ever forget it taught me so much about just not taking things for granted I’m and also being okay with things being out of your control %HESITATION but but that particular situation with with Katrina let so much for me because I watch so many people lose so much more I lost physical possessions but I watched people that lost their whole community %HESITATION I had family members who lost neighbors who drowned one of my mother’s childhood friends drowned in Katrina and she didn’t find out until three months four months later %HESITATION his name popped up on the list and so %HESITATION that contribute to a lot of depression for her and she actually passed away two years after Katrina but the stress of that that situation and to watch even all these years later the posttraumatic stress that so many people in that city in in that region experienced and never still yet received support or have provided have been providing the type of %HESITATION mental health %HESITATION S. U. resources to help them with that you know I’m I’m very passion about trauma %HESITATION because it’s something that is in the body the body you know there’s a book out that I read about four five years ago called the body keeps the score and I think of that all the time with Katrina and terms or any natural disaster in the around the world when things are not provided for people to work through that trauma or when people are not educated on how trauma shows that up it impacts so much so for me that situation was it was a life changing for my entire family but for me to witness that %HESITATION for me to be in contact with people who are actually on the ground and did not have access to water or food in no idea what was happening it was it was literally just %HESITATION an out of out of body experience it really was the sun’s up sees her flying and hope they listed as you have just heard that emotional story don’t wait for %HESITATION catastrophe or disaster like hurricane Katrina to be grateful for the things that we do have fortunately I’d I have experience or the adversities are possible and want to hear from you he just makes me so much more grateful for the little things I have as well and even more so than already have you said something that was really powerful and it was being okay with the things being out of your control I know as simple as that sentence is I just feel that we will struggle with that yes and we’ll have concerts you miss in the day and then I fix a motions on our behavior in the way we treat our friends and our families and it’s something I’ll definitely try to be more mindful of I think you to turn it previously it’s about my furnace and the money keeps the school always is it’s it’s something not she heard about six months ago and it really makes sense to me and I’ve seen people who have been through trauma or who have been through hat similar to yourself and your body does take a toll because the physiology although we wanna see extending tenderly it’s it’s damage in a so I’m putting you on the spot here a little bit can be if you don’t mind but no go ahead I can handle it customer you hundred much way so I could see myself should be fine but if you could just give say one tangible tape to somebody whether it is something as simple as just trying to be okay with things being out of your control just something of somebody experiences some level of adverse to a former in that moment what tip could you just help somebody with a tip that I can help someone with %HESITATION my biggest thing that with the teenagers that I work with is just self awareness %HESITATION body awareness of being more aware of what’s going on inside of your body what he’s feeling how how you breathing now what are you thinking of I %HESITATION I I truly believe that you know we it will manifest our thoughts and our body gives us feedback on everything that we transmit you know whether it’s a verbal emotional energetic %HESITATION visual it’s all we out process that we process it differently but to be just really self aware %HESITATION you know that is that is the most thing that I have learned in anger years of my life recently I haven’t always been self aware maybe I have I did have a label for but just to be self aware yeah %HESITATION knowing yourself and and and being okay with that and then also but not not judging yourself in that in that same breath you know but just really knowing yourself and know having your boundaries %HESITATION being compassionate with yourself and we all have struggles we all have problems but not focusing on the problems as much I’m shifting your mindset that speak to that’s that’s a really big thing too but self awareness for me it is powerful it has worked at any age self awareness can be obtained it is not limited to you know in a certain stage of the journey that’s a fantastic and so I need give us some gold information so thank you for the help and I hope it helps the land I really do it justice changed my life absolutely I think I’d so much value it one thing that I do try to do and as you said it reminded me to do it again was to be aware so I almost sat Lopez you were talking just to kind of control my breathing again proper breathing I then became self aware of my body so the sensation of my feet touching the floor in my hands resting on my thighs and little things that I think we go through life and we’re almost so reactive that we we tend to forget all of that and then yeah something also so before which was not judging yourself and be compassionate with yourself and I’m probably hit the west for this because I will beat myself up over the most trivial things yet if my friends or my family what to do the same thing I would almost burned all run that showed a and sometimes I sing there I think what can I talk to myself the way that I took two of this and I think I would be living in a much better place I hope it makes no sense but I sometimes feel that we are our own worst enemies at times so I think the specified testing and we should all try to be calm and more self aware have you got any recommendations in terms of books %HESITATION courses Ole is it something that maybe you can offer the list this all my goodness there’s so many books that I’ve read but again if there’s one thing to read it but to actually and put it into practice and make it practical in your daily living %HESITATION at their at their %HESITATION I don’t really know of any books that teach self awareness it it’s something that that I have just more more psychology more psychology behind in anything I read a lot of self help books over the years but really understanding human behavior and psychology reading books about psychology has been tremendous for me I took psychology in college as a minor so I I had a lot of exposure to human development but now that I’m out of college I still continue to feed my brain with things to help me better understand sociology and psychology and and and human behavior I’m as I would like to say just searched anything was self awareness on the internet find people on social media who are interested in that look up hash tags about self awareness I talk about it a lot on my on my Instagram page %HESITATION I was I’m sorry go ahead no sorry I was just gonna say Kimberly or better yet follow you on your Instagram yes they yes I do I tap on it a lot in my on my my social media platform I really do because I don’t think that people are a familiar with that term enough and %HESITATION again there they could somebody be eighty years old and not self aware it really is a way of being and so many people like you said %HESITATION are reactive we’re just going to life to auto pilot if they’re not really in tune with who they are and how they respond to the world and and being sent a lot of people have sensitivities %HESITATION anxiety is something that many people suffer with but anxiety is also triggered by a lot of sensitivity issues things in the environment you know some people are very sensitive to energy so it really makes a difference you know once you are aware of who you are and how you respond to your to life in the navigate from that space of level of understanding yourself this brilliant thank you thank you for sharing knowledge I think maybe this is more of an actual Jenny for this one they just simply picking up a book and hoping that’s going to solve our problems I think it is definitely gonna require some level of daily work for this yes I’m using your own words here that you previously mentioned that you you kind of all over the place and in the things that you’re doing could you kindly give us an insight into what a day in the life is like for you oh my goodness a day in the life will I wake up extremely early am I like to operate when the world where I am is still pretty quiet %HESITATION but I am constantly learning about different things %HESITATION I’m in I teach sex education that’s what I do %HESITATION throughout the week %HESITATION with high school kids in the city where I live so I’m working on modules for the upcoming week I am going over questions that they ask a lot of them I give them a little box and I pass around the class I have a hundred and fifty kids this summer that according to my course date posted give questions to me anonymously and %HESITATION I’m not sure how it is there in London where you are but here in the United States sex education is not a U. eighty normalized curriculum or course in in public schools here and I’m really working on changing the conversation for that because we need it I see the feedback from the teens in the use here in the U. S. that they really want information they want %HESITATION information about how to protect themselves they want information about consent understanding that about %HESITATION this past week we did negotiation skills those are things life skills that will not of us ever ever really taught you know communication skills getting the foundation for that start early we both know communication skills are things that we have to evolve upon the route life but in the teenage years to have the opportunity to start learning communication skills and understanding with healthy and unhealthy relationships are and understand the carrot sticks of abusive relationships so I do that %HESITATION I still provide valuable insight to people who have children with special needs because that is still a passion of mine autism is still widely misunderstood autism is still very taboo and there are a lot of more holistic approach is to help kids with autism I worked in a program about four or five years ago in autism program in Virginia beach Virginia and it provided a lot of insight for me on how to approach with autism and and how to help them connect better with with people that are serving them in the school system serving them in the home and also about them when they get older me when they get older what are we what space that we have available for them what type of jobs are things that we have available in place for them so those are things that I’m working on %HESITATION I also do volunteer work I work in the nonprofit sector here I am helping to eliminate a lot of smoking environments where we are because the air pollution is is is pretty high where we are and %HESITATION we have a lot of places that still allows smoking in certain public areas where children are asked me is is a very high incident here in the area where I am so I’m involved in that I’m involved in a black chain chamber of commerce we are also educating the world about blockchain the things that are happening in that sector and how it’s going to revolutionize things in in the world %HESITATION with with all of that so I’m all over the place while really just everywhere and you do all of this in the same twenty four hours is as all of us and you know what black Jane yeah blacks say this typically webinars %HESITATION we have webinars I can’t always attend the meetings their meetings every day about blockchain throughout my city but I at the particular chamber that I’m in we do a lot of note similar to the Skype limits are popping if they have a meeting I try to find out you know what what they’re working on it how I can contribute %HESITATION the sex ed courses go on during the day I only teach for about an hour and a half because the kids are in the summer program so I come in and provide them with the need in their lives and take questions and then I move on but I am busy and I home school my daughter so I do that too it I’m maximize my day but I mean it it just flows I mean I’m just so happy to be alive to be here so it it doesn’t I never really get burned out I I have found a way to really just take it all in and and focus on things that I’m passionate about it because my intention behind everything is good %HESITATION it just flows it really does I love that I chill Olwen expend energy from may so it feels like you’ll got so much let your inspiration this this self service the selfless yes you just giving out and most of it is probably because of the addresses of come in your life to make you feel so grateful have you always been that a Colleen generous personal how’s life almost made you just appreciate everything you have to then go out and try to give more to the world %HESITATION you know I honestly I I think I’ve always been that way they had a lot to do with my parenting %HESITATION my parents did everything they could to keep me very grounded %HESITATION I I grew up in a in a it was a lot a lot and %HESITATION even though there were some things that occurred you know by parents or are not perfect but they they both do their very best to make sure that I stay grounded and date expose me to things where I was able to see that I was very blessed in the situation that I was in and they always made sure that I I remain humble %HESITATION so a really had to do with my parents in my eyes my parents again they they were great they have their own struggles but they truly %HESITATION embodied compassion and empathy in mice that my mother used to we will go to New Orleans they were children in the neighborhood who who who didn’t have a lot of food and they’re they’re I don’t know what their situations where because I was probably eight or nine years old I remember she would pack food for them and and give them food and and we would she was very passionate about the elderly community and senior senior citizens and she would spend time with them as he would take me with her and do all of those things so I grew up seeing it modeled in people in my life and so for me it was just natural it was part of being human I love it your mother sounds like an incredible lady she was housing and I gained some of those lessons that the compassion the empathy and stuff I have to be very grateful as well that that was instilled in me from my parents and this is probably one of the main things along with kindness to a one one day when I do have children T. just instilled in nothing that’s a hell of a lot more important than some of the things we think are important growing up in life such as the results that you get on an exam for example who’s got the best trade is what I mean that there’s more important things compassion empathy or not so that’s a beautiful on sat and just on not then what is your intrinsic and why you know what I do so much and I don’t expect anything in return and so I think that has a lot to do with that I just I want to see people happy I want to see people for Phil and I want to see people doing what they love I at throughout my life I have observed so many people who are unhappy and who were not enjoying life and it has it’s saddening sometimes to see that %HESITATION and then there it’s comes from people who you know who have gone through a lot but just to be alive you know that’s that’s just enough you know is just enough %HESITATION I just don’t take anything for granted %HESITATION at the I just don’t we have a lovely I think your intent is is so truthful and honest and I’m not sure if it’s something that maybe we would have to go through adversity to kind of gain that deception without clarity the fact that you want to see people happy you want to see for filled and seeing them do what they love that’s literally how are you try to be I mean all I’m AT my Jenny I am still learning I love it so much from you just in the short amount of time that we had together so very grateful for that and I don’t understand myself and I’m going to find a bit of a tangent here so excuse me but I see a lot of people especially on social media who pretends to have the intent that you have no I could feel it from you just right did you notice the second says that you’ve been through that your your because nobody who’s not pure would go out there and selflessly wake up early met the most of the day to be trying to make an impact in so many different areas of life which she feels that she can make an impact but in social media today after that we’re also in a society where people will on this mask and then they almost try and say the right things in order to gain fame more publicity %HESITATION more like a social media I mean really white it really dries my kids because I can see straight through somebody’s intent but you touched on something that was brilliant and is that you don’t burn I and I think when you come from a place of inspiration and you come from a place of just your passion you’re not going to bed not because you any Jesus bureau I mean I don’t have the science behind that to back it but I I believe that because I don’t have to get better %HESITATION when I’m working for most of the I’m passionate about but I feel that when I work for an organizational something with my values and ethics don’t align with it I struggle a struggle between ones so I think that’s a great message that you gave in this podcast is for people just to be honest with themselves again it comes back to self awareness of a kind of come full circle here that in life sometimes people are saying the buzz words because I feel that’s going to attract more likes and attention where is I’m just saying just be yourself there’s nothing wrong if you don’t want to change the world there’s absolutely nothing wrong with that if your house and your content in your field in your life then by all means just live that life but don’t try to be something that you’re not because I’m said finding it’s hard enough just be myself and try to figure myself I run and try to have a second personally so yeah a little bit of a run that but I just I just feel that you’ve you’ve gave so much and clarity and value dava been able to kind of connect the dots that hope you’re made about since two years ago is now yes thank you and I I totally agree you can definitely feel it and %HESITATION you know I’m I’m not in the business of of being negative on other people but I don’t like to see people being deceived you know that’s a big thing for me and that is that is where I I I said the self awareness I talk about that with my teenagers about being manipulated as did you have to be so in tune with yourself where you can see it coming a mile away I said it’s a different game in this world now you know there’s a lot of illusions that pretend to be the truth and you have to be on top of that and you have to trust yourself and if something doesn’t feel right if something doesn’t resonate then then don’t force IT don’t you know try to make it make it feel good and or to go with the flow but you’re right you fit you can sense that I I’m the same way in it if used to trigger me it really did but I feel that when you’re not operating from a space of integrity or a space of intent eventually it catches up with you it always does it always does I think I’m realizing that I think people who are trying to go for the short term gains will events short term yeah yeah absolutely but what was incredible they can really was as you said manipulation I literally wrote that would die some I’m not trying so if you hit the nail on the head is Zaki with them my thought process and I see in a society where people are taking advantage of people could because one I see people who already at a disadvantage anyway through the because of the man dell in life and it just really upsets me that there’s a but I did then trying to exploit these people and so by almost trying to sell people that they’re missing a key ingredient for example so you you’re having people setting courses for like two thousand pounds because if you really want to be successful you need this one thing so you need to come by my course and I’m just like Hey you could talk about it and I’m I’m trying to think that we need to let yourself is try to be more persuasive rod in trying to manipulate people but I think if people with self aware and use they got interested what you just said I think we definitely in a better place but yeah that’s that’s interesting thank you for that your welcome and just to add on that %HESITATION people prion in security and anytime that someone can make another person feel as if they are not enough then they open that door where they can say you’re not enough here’s what you need from me in order to you know and that I learned what I work in the nonprofit sector I’ll I observe that a lot of people go into underserved communities and they would do the photo ops they will go when under the agenda that they were there to serve and to help but it was really just to for their own personal gain it was either for notoriety and the people in the community what will begin to not trust in a will go away and then we will try to provide information and resources they would say well how long you going to be here because most people come in they collect data from us and they leave and so I saw that in real world experience and then for to see it on the internet now on social media is so much easier for people everybody’s looking for something and and they and then those who are preying on people they are out here doing it with with expectation of something in return whether it’s money whether it’s likes whether its followers but it’s not coming from the space of I am here to to provide value for you I don’t want anything from you and like you said the short term is a short term objective but is is the long term because I believe we’re all interconnected if we can provide value for someone it’s plants the seed that can alter their life life choices in their lifetime and they shouldn’t require anything from someone else you know just the energy exchanges enough you know that’s enough yeah can be this is this is exactly why I love this podcast on from from a sunfish perspective dot last three minutes not on twenty eight shows that’s probably the best three minutes to all I’ve been fortunate to have heard maybe because it resonates with me on a personal level so you said something that and I I got a bit emotional and and the heads of my home stood up because he said people pray on security and I fill in the last twelve months somebody who I considered very close to me prior mind security from mind’s eye you my shyness and it was almost led to believe that any of the success I have in the future was down to this one individual yes in hindsight when a simple thing can I think I’ve had to or that we can all I’ve got to overcome my fear is I’ve got to go and try to do public speaking and then embarrass myself because the words don’t come out and I’ve got all those reps in those I was in those sleepless nights but there was a time when I wasn’t as self aware %HESITATION realizing my own values always bring into the world and I didn’t believe that it was all done to this one individual one it was incredible how the how they I suppose it was be manipulated I’m to be honest and only share this on not to kind of broadcast this as this individual I’m trying to book classes to people who may be going through the same situation because I now sit here and I I feel hurt and I feel pain that I feel that the individual has loss probably one of the most low people on the road and that’s one thing that I would always try and be is is just a very loyal person to people even myself on this JWT person development six seven years I’m still landing everyday so am I on a selfish reason that really resonated with me massively and I hope it does for that for the laces are because I’m sure we’re all going to be coming into contact with people who we generally think have our best intentions are hot but deep down and their intent is not as pule and %HESITATION and I I truly believe that is all comes down to your intent yes it does it does so thank you for that and I’m gonna just flipped the script nice so I want to ask you have you been through so much adversity and since so much in your incredible story and you could talk about this for days just a shame that you’re on the other side of the road but what actually scares you in this moment what’s your biggest fear you know to be honest I almost want to say I don’t have any fears but I think for me there’s a inner urgency just to make sure that I do everything that I can in terms of my mission here before I leave here and and I don’t really know when that time will be but other than that I don’t really have any fears and I’m not afraid of death I’m not afraid of failure I’m not afraid of of of is there a being embarrassed %HESITATION I’ve shared a lot of personal things on my Instagram page that most people probably would not share out of fear of judgment I’m not afraid of judgment I’m not really afraid of anything and I think that that’s what my fuel is it’s like no one can say anything that can really take me out of my space and it it just it empowers it empowers me that I don’t have any really I don’t really have any fears of anything I just I haven’t always been this way though so now it has this has been a journey to get get this I used to be afraid of a lot you know but %HESITATION again I think the experiences that I’ve gone through have basically all of my fears that I had I had to face them so no thank you for sharing that thank you for mentioning that you wasn’t always like this because I I think when somebody and hopefully people after this show will be the definite gravitate towards you for you that might just think that it’s okay for Kimberly Camby’s got it all figured out what people don’t realize is everyone has a story and everyone becomes the way they are because of whatever is happening this previous chapters that’s kind of one of the purposes behind the show and if I’m completely honest now you’ve got me intrigued because I’m I’m kicking myself that I did it do you more stalking into your personal is around is my own you know put my hands up because I think Instagram we look at it and we look at pretty pictures it is not attracted us in the face to the second record of I scored away so I’m very interested not to kind of go back into your posts and the whole the listeners do as well because I’m sure there’s going to be a lot that we can all learn from not so %HESITATION definitely %HESITATION food for thought for myself thank you for that yeah I’ll you’re welcome yeah there’s there’s a ton of %HESITATION information I’ve been on Instagram since two thousand eleven and believe it or not the first three or four years of Instagram my page was totally private I I used to be a very private person and then %HESITATION one day something came to my mind and it said you you’re gonna have a lot that you need to do and you’re gonna have to reach a lot more people and opening your account is the only way be able to do it to know you with it you can that work and talk to people and really connect with other people and I just always been a very private person I’m totally on the different end of the spectrum now there’s nothing that I won’t share about my life for the most part I’m pretty much open but %HESITATION yeah there’s a ton of information there and I hope we can provide some value for people anything kind of watch my journey along the way over these years %HESITATION as well thank you and that’s the V. for thing about it and I feel not it should be Stephanie your G. eat to spread your light and spread your message as well so if I ever see you doing anything in private I’m gonna tell you off myself piston he make sure they put out into the road because yeah yeah lightning definitely okay can be rested on the part of the show now which I like to cool the from Polish %HESITATION where I’m gonna put you on the spot and ask you also as a way to win for questions so we’re gonna start in three two one what did you eat for breakfast %HESITATION nothing yet okay your biggest gift the ability to communicate the ability to fly %HESITATION be visible fly would you rather have a rewind button or a pause button on life but many of fame that’s not that’s a tough one money or fame because both provide impact I wish I would have to say money because I could do things anonymously and still make an impact without the fame I don’t want to sync your proudest moment becoming a mother your favorite food pineapple not fix the chief of man I used to pass down Kay your number one goal this year connect with more people that are international your favorite TV show ever you know what I was just talking about that yesterday I like Mister Rogers neighborhood there %HESITATION there’s like great value in wisdom and that would you rather know how you would die or when you are done when your favorite hobby apple in books or movies books if you could sit with one person in the road for an hour who would it be your last I love to pick his brain US there is a child was actually something happened to my parents that was my worst fear and finally if you could abolish one thing in the world what would it be I would abolish anything that would cause harm to children yeah I working with teenagers and knowing that a many of them are going through a lot or have been through a lot as a result of other people if I could if I could abolish any type of harm done to children because everything originates in childhood absolutely yeah thank you we are actually at the end right yeah brilliant okay so just a couple more questions can be from may and %HESITATION the next one I always like to ask my guess is about reflection so I’m a family even the whole inside is a wonderful thing in terms of it can teach just ways that we can get to places quick cash with less heartache Reza who all want to know is if you could knowing everything that you know knives go back to a time where maybe you will be and said no we’re not clear way you we’re going in life and whisper something in the younger Kim please yeah what would you say I would tell a younger Kimberly to trust herself yeah I would I would tell her to trust herself because there was a time when I would listen to what everyone else was saying my parents my friends and this is before social media so I can only imagine the at the feedback that people get now from strangers are from people that they don’t now but to trust myself trust myself UPS is going to be okay everything’s going to be okay love the love that thank you and sadly that she does bring us to the last question so if in a hundred fifty years time science vows to save us and all that exists is a book and this book it’s about you it’s about your life and all the way in a wonderful things that you’ve contributed to life and everything about you basically firstly what would the title of the book be and secondly what with the Blair but the back tell us about you the title would be everlasting touch mom and that the blurb on the back would have to be that S. the legacy is is is that compassion kindness connection %HESITATION embassy those and and love those are the things that that Kerry that that Kerry throughout human civil realization it’s it’s intrinsic of who we are it’s it’s wired in our DNA and %HESITATION and that’s that’s the touch that you know it goes through our address there are children it goes through us through people that we connect with I feel it through you and through and through the night you know it’s it’s the human value them up today how would you want to be remembered though as a person like what would you want the fasting that when somebody mentions your name that they say oh we can be yes she is sincere mmhm I think sincerity is something that people cannot imitate yeah or pretend sincerity sincerity hello love that thank you can release so %HESITATION so suddenly that she does bring this to the the end of the show is actually been one of my favorite shows and like I said this is a segment in here which really touch my heart and I’ve read so much just having this fifty minute conversation with you and I’ll definitely show to kind of follow your Jenny but what I want to do is give the audience a chance to connect with you as well because I I think your fascinating %HESITATION individual I think you you bring so much so much good into the world nothing you can do so much more as well moving forward so if you wouldn’t mind if you could just kind of give us the best places where people can perhaps reach out to you connect with you %HESITATION maybe just follow your Jenny sorry yes I am on Instagram as at Jackson K. ten I’d spell J. A. C. K. S. O. N. the number one zero and I also have another handle Instagram called you are the wealth that’s also the name of one of my businesses and %HESITATION I have a pod my podcast this call you are the wealthy can find it on all the podcast platforms as well and yeah that that the you are the well this is something that I recently created because again the self awareness in the self worth is something that I believe needs to be cultivated and and everyone and %HESITATION damp that damn on Twitter is you are the well I’m not much on Facebook so you’ll find me on Instagram or Twitter and then I have the podcast but but those are %HESITATION that that’s enough for me I think I spread myself too thin the family absolutely absolutely nothing you doing at TI much anyway although I say I say that in a positive way because everything the duties of the fantastic so thank you thank you for sharing those can be all set order the information in the show notes so on how the actual links there for anyone that needs to click on it I want to once again from the ball my hot thank can be for a time today more importantly everyone a hold thanks for listening thank you and thank you for what you’re doing as well it’s much needed thank you and remember this podcast is absolutely free so all we ask in return is for you to share this with a friend and drop us a five star review over on iTunes have an awesome day

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Private: How to deal with Trauma #30

“Everlasting touch” by Kimberly JoNell #30

Tagline: “Compassion, kindness, connection, empathy & love will carry throughout human civilization”

What an incredibly beautiful soul Kimberly JoNell is.

A woman who has faced her biggest fears, of losing her friend, both parents and her belongings to Hurricane Katrina. A lady who spends every waking hour serving others, with no expectation of receiving anything back. A graceful individual who focuses on making the world a better place for children, teenagers and all those who experience trauma to some level in their lives. I am forever grateful to have shared an hour with Kimberly as I genuinely believed I learnt so much from her story, her experience, her wisdom and knowledge. She is someone who has shown me I have yet so many further steps to travel. But she also showed me that I was right in what I was doing.

We must all live to and through our own purpose. We must become self-aware and recognise our own beauties and become in touch with ourselves so that we can then leave an everlasting touch to the rest of the world.

It was also the first time I have ever shown clips of the episode prior to launching because I have genuinely never felt such a connection with someone, whose message is so pure, authentic and sincere. I urge you all to support this amazing lady and follow her incredible journey on the links shown below.

Some key discussion points:

  1. How to become more self-aware
  2. The importance of self-love
  3. Facing and overcoming adversity
  4. Intent and sincerity
  5. Living with energy and inspiration
  6. Importance of being curious

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Podcast: https://anchor.fm/you-are-the-wealth-with-kimberly-jonell/episodes/Having-Less-Stuff-Can-Reduce-Anxiety-e4g359

Twitter: https://twitter.com/YouAreTheWealth

Pippa Transcript:

welcome to an episode of find your voice a movement led by yours truly Aren Deu a guy who was overcome crippling anxiety adversity and difficulty like so many of you in life whose main goal now is to help you combat your excuses take control of your life write your own story and most importantly find your voice so now without further ado I welcome the host of the show himself Mr Aren Deu what’s going on people thank you for tuning into another episode of find your voice my name is iron and as always I am the host of the show so today I am bringing you Kimberly JoNell somebody who who got me through the interview to state this was actually the greatest three minutes dot ever experience so far %HESITATION find your voice maybe that is because it’s something that resonated with me somewhat more than maybe it will with yourselves but what I will say is that that three minutes completely changed the way that I see people in the way that I did not carry out my life and again this is why I’m not trying to move the show a little bit more towards because I’m very conscious that we can all get inspired and motivated by hearing all these stories of people overcoming adversity and going through the trials and tribulations but still remaining positive is still persevering but what I want to start to do not %HESITATION is trying to ask each of my guess a couple of tips a couple of things that we can take away so last week you had the incredible tale that give us the clay act message and that was fantastic and in fact what you’ve been doing that for the last two weeks and Kimberly crops are owner gets and these looks absolutely incredible and I would just want to say it once again my gratitude to committee for taking time out of a day I certainly learned so much and realize that this personal development Jedi dom on I have so much further to go pretty speedy forty six it’s exciting and I’m really enjoying the process and hopefully you guys I’ve come along on the journey as well are enjoying it too so without further ado let’s get this interview on the way okay so firstly I just wanna thank Kimberly for taking time out of a day to come when I show today and be quite enough to share his story as she’s actually have podcaster herself a business owner a trauma specialist which is actually something I’m really interested to hear more about a community I reach and youth health educator SO very excited for this opportunity she’s on the other side of the road actually so we are connected via Skype which is fantastic in this is kind of the thing that podcasting kind bring to the surface so before we begin can really how you doing today I’m awesome just excited to be here and and and opportunity to talk with you and the rest of your listeners thank you so much for taking the time and having me here today I appreciate it you’re very welcome thank you too as well for taking time out your day so it’s quite easy for me it’s ten o’clock here in the U. K. and parties even a free use of bless you for having to deal with me rambling gone in the morning so %HESITATION I’m a morning person luckily for you saw my so hopefully this will be plain sailing I think it’s going to be important for my listeners to get to know your story a little bit from yourself so if you wouldn’t mind can belief you kind of just give us I suppose a summary of of your life some things of by you have basically what brings you here today thank you sure so %HESITATION I grew up in a small town outside of Cincinnati Ohio Colerain township and I both of my parents live in the household with me my dad was a truck driver my mother was a stay at home mom and essentially I had a pretty %HESITATION pretty interesting childhood I went back and forth between Louisiana during my summers and %HESITATION didn’t really have a lot of extended family in the city where we lived only child so that definitely I provided a lot of insight for me growing up in terms of spending a lot of time alone and I think it has developed a lot within me where I’m pretty self to pay and then in terms of with my self awareness %HESITATION most of my childhood friends I’m still very close to now but there were a lot of experiences I had throughout my childhood and teenage years which brought a lot of curiosity for B. into the things that I’m interested in now %HESITATION I particularly had several relatives in my life who had special needs and the growing up in the nineteen eighties you really did not have a lot of explanation or information available as to what special needs wise what developmental delays wire and throughout my high school years I began to read up a lot more about it I had a cousin in particular that had autism %HESITATION and so I developed an interest in that and I eventually started studying speech pathology in college and I found out from that from that field that we work with individuals who have ox is M. we work with individuals who have other developmental delays that and then we will also serve children who have articulation delays language delays stuttering all of those different facets in childhood there’s other rounds of speech pathology as well so part of my %HESITATION my background in that is from some of the early experiences in exposures I had with people who had a developmental delays or cognitive delays so that was sent that was of a big passion of mine early on %HESITATION I’m passionate about electronics and if anybody files my Instagram page they’ll see that I’m usually into a lot of different things but %HESITATION I enjoy anything dealing with technology being here for forty years now I have observed so many revolutionary things that have been brought to the %HESITATION into the space with regards to technology advancements the internet %HESITATION and now we’re involving %HESITATION evolving into a lot of other things in terms of digital currency %HESITATION I was just reading an article last night about a timeless vehicles so I’m just I’m just a very curious person to being only child I didn’t really have a lot of friends early on and I spent a lot of time by myself so curiosity just drives me %HESITATION I’m incredibly grateful I I went through a lot of very difficult situations early on in life I’m I witnessed %HESITATION a violent incident in my early twenties which shaped a lot of things for me %HESITATION I had a very close friend of mine in my early twenties that was killed so that shaped a lot for me as well %HESITATION during my last year of college I’m last right before after graduation from college my family in Dort hurricane Katrina %HESITATION which was a mass of hurricane that impacted the Louisiana and Gulf coast area of the United States and throughout that process I lost everything I had because most of my things were in Louisiana at the time and I was living in a different state so I had the indoor loss %HESITATION several times throughout my life and then two years later both of my parents passed away unexpectedly so sorry to hear that %HESITATION well you know it it does those challenges are things that so many of us have to go through and %HESITATION and and back to that just with my parents that was a huge motivator for me as well in terms of getting into the mental health field at because I did have a lot of observation throughout my childhood with people in my family who struggle with mental health issues and at that time no one really gave it a label but you kind of just observe things that were happening around you and then also observing things that happen within myself as a teenager I struggled a lot with anxiety I struggle out was depression I think that was around the first time in my life and maybe around seventeen or eighteen when I really started to feel what depression felt like and %HESITATION so as I got older I really began to try to understand more about and it wasn’t until after my parents passed away that I would there be and it really I mean I am a huge advocate for therapy for people now so that brought me into the mental health realm of where I am now with helping people in the community outreach with trauma and %HESITATION I’ve taken mindfulness training to try to assist people with that area of their life as well so I’m all over the place but I have many many passions and it it is what keeps me going and just being able to provide something of value to to to the world why what a story so you’ve definitely exceeded my expectations already in the so many things I actually own a car from that story so face the odds I just love your I chewed because for somebody who’s in George so much loss not just only with your friend be a Paris which you know I I send my deepest condolences for %HESITATION you you have such a brilliant attitude that you are grateful for the difficult situations in your life and this is literally it’s almost like if I had to think of a perfect guest to have a my show Kimberly you would be that guess because I want people to realize that the calls that would tell in life because we choose and sometimes it works sometimes it bad and it’s about having to overcome the adversity and almost used adversity is a gift and you’ve you’ve taken on all these obstacles in your life and not what you’re doing is you’re saving others and you’ll fulfilling yourself your happiness and I and I just loved about you that you you send for instance your cousin who’s suffered with autism and you said I need to understand is a little bit better and you’ve dived into that topic and now you’re trying to make a difference for people free speech pathology that you mentioned and I like that your all over the place I love that because for some people it’s quite common for them to kind of thing that I need to be an expert in one field will kind of stick to one lane I love a lot yourself I am very chaotic my mind is all over the place I am into property on one side I mean to podcast into his by the board in one place I am also an advocate of children’s as struggling so my younger brother has wound isn’t as well and I was a social worker in my past life so there’s a lot of things I can and resonate with you even with the depression my mom suffered a depression some trying to start a social enterprise to raise awareness so I wish I had more of me or more of you actually could you have so much more awareness to me that we could almost in the short amount of time that we have one in this bill would make such a positive difference and I mean even the hurricane Katrina that was big news over here in the U. K. is about that experience Dynegy spoken to somebody who’s lived out means it’s one thing seen on the television on and if you wouldn’t mind because it’s quite unique topic could you just maybe run through that area to what it was like in terms of how you’re feeling and what you have to do I’ll absolutely ads for me I moved actually I graduated from college in may of two thousand five I was attending a college in Louisiana New Orleans and I actually have an apartment in east New Orleans I received a job offer to move to Georgia and two weeks after I packed up my storage unit in just packed up probably a suitcase full of belongings intro to Atlanta Katrina hit all of my family and friends were still there the first thing I could think of in terms of just describe my my emotions was powerless I had a friend who was a nurse and %HESITATION one of the hospitals in the north the the uptown area of New Orleans she was trapped in the hole in the hospital %HESITATION I have family members who were trapped in the lower ninth ward I’m I remember being at work because I was working as a speech pathologist at the time I’m sitting in my office texting my friend who was a nurse in the hospital during apple after the hurricane that hit the levy said broke in the water it flooded the city her phone was literally the only phone on that floor her hospital they had no electricity no power I was texting her in telling her what was happening because they had no idea that the levy said broke they knew the hurricane hit they were out of power and she was in the hospital where a lot of people died because a lot of the hospital patients who did not have power for the the hospital equipment %HESITATION it was it was in a %HESITATION deal that I will never ever forget it taught me so much about just not taking things for granted I’m and also being okay with things being out of your control %HESITATION but but that particular situation with with Katrina let so much for me because I watch so many people lose so much more I lost physical possessions but I watched people that lost their whole community %HESITATION I had family members who lost neighbors who drowned one of my mother’s childhood friends drowned in Katrina and she didn’t find out until three months four months later %HESITATION his name popped up on the list and so %HESITATION that contribute to a lot of depression for her and she actually passed away two years after Katrina but the stress of that that situation and to watch even all these years later the posttraumatic stress that so many people in that city in in that region experienced and never still yet received support or have provided have been providing the type of %HESITATION mental health %HESITATION S. U. resources to help them with that you know I’m I’m very passion about trauma %HESITATION because it’s something that is in the body the body you know there’s a book out that I read about four five years ago called the body keeps the score and I think of that all the time with Katrina and terms or any natural disaster in the around the world when things are not provided for people to work through that trauma or when people are not educated on how trauma shows that up it impacts so much so for me that situation was it was a life changing for my entire family but for me to witness that %HESITATION for me to be in contact with people who are actually on the ground and did not have access to water or food in no idea what was happening it was it was literally just %HESITATION an out of out of body experience it really was the sun’s up sees her flying and hope they listed as you have just heard that emotional story don’t wait for %HESITATION catastrophe or disaster like hurricane Katrina to be grateful for the things that we do have fortunately I’d I have experience or the adversities are possible and want to hear from you he just makes me so much more grateful for the little things I have as well and even more so than already have you said something that was really powerful and it was being okay with the things being out of your control I know as simple as that sentence is I just feel that we will struggle with that yes and we’ll have concerts you miss in the day and then I fix a motions on our behavior in the way we treat our friends and our families and it’s something I’ll definitely try to be more mindful of I think you to turn it previously it’s about my furnace and the money keeps the school always is it’s it’s something not she heard about six months ago and it really makes sense to me and I’ve seen people who have been through trauma or who have been through hat similar to yourself and your body does take a toll because the physiology although we wanna see extending tenderly it’s it’s damage in a so I’m putting you on the spot here a little bit can be if you don’t mind but no go ahead I can handle it customer you hundred much way so I could see myself should be fine but if you could just give say one tangible tape to somebody whether it is something as simple as just trying to be okay with things being out of your control just something of somebody experiences some level of adverse to a former in that moment what tip could you just help somebody with a tip that I can help someone with %HESITATION my biggest thing that with the teenagers that I work with is just self awareness %HESITATION body awareness of being more aware of what’s going on inside of your body what he’s feeling how how you breathing now what are you thinking of I %HESITATION I I truly believe that you know we it will manifest our thoughts and our body gives us feedback on everything that we transmit you know whether it’s a verbal emotional energetic %HESITATION visual it’s all we out process that we process it differently but to be just really self aware %HESITATION you know that is that is the most thing that I have learned in anger years of my life recently I haven’t always been self aware maybe I have I did have a label for but just to be self aware yeah %HESITATION knowing yourself and and and being okay with that and then also but not not judging yourself in that in that same breath you know but just really knowing yourself and know having your boundaries %HESITATION being compassionate with yourself and we all have struggles we all have problems but not focusing on the problems as much I’m shifting your mindset that speak to that’s that’s a really big thing too but self awareness for me it is powerful it has worked at any age self awareness can be obtained it is not limited to you know in a certain stage of the journey that’s a fantastic and so I need give us some gold information so thank you for the help and I hope it helps the land I really do it justice changed my life absolutely I think I’d so much value it one thing that I do try to do and as you said it reminded me to do it again was to be aware so I almost sat Lopez you were talking just to kind of control my breathing again proper breathing I then became self aware of my body so the sensation of my feet touching the floor in my hands resting on my thighs and little things that I think we go through life and we’re almost so reactive that we we tend to forget all of that and then yeah something also so before which was not judging yourself and be compassionate with yourself and I’m probably hit the west for this because I will beat myself up over the most trivial things yet if my friends or my family what to do the same thing I would almost burned all run that showed a and sometimes I sing there I think what can I talk to myself the way that I took two of this and I think I would be living in a much better place I hope it makes no sense but I sometimes feel that we are our own worst enemies at times so I think the specified testing and we should all try to be calm and more self aware have you got any recommendations in terms of books %HESITATION courses Ole is it something that maybe you can offer the list this all my goodness there’s so many books that I’ve read but again if there’s one thing to read it but to actually and put it into practice and make it practical in your daily living %HESITATION at their at their %HESITATION I don’t really know of any books that teach self awareness it it’s something that that I have just more more psychology more psychology behind in anything I read a lot of self help books over the years but really understanding human behavior and psychology reading books about psychology has been tremendous for me I took psychology in college as a minor so I I had a lot of exposure to human development but now that I’m out of college I still continue to feed my brain with things to help me better understand sociology and psychology and and and human behavior I’m as I would like to say just searched anything was self awareness on the internet find people on social media who are interested in that look up hash tags about self awareness I talk about it a lot on my on my Instagram page %HESITATION I was I’m sorry go ahead no sorry I was just gonna say Kimberly or better yet follow you on your Instagram yes they yes I do I tap on it a lot in my on my my social media platform I really do because I don’t think that people are a familiar with that term enough and %HESITATION again there they could somebody be eighty years old and not self aware it really is a way of being and so many people like you said %HESITATION are reactive we’re just going to life to auto pilot if they’re not really in tune with who they are and how they respond to the world and and being sent a lot of people have sensitivities %HESITATION anxiety is something that many people suffer with but anxiety is also triggered by a lot of sensitivity issues things in the environment you know some people are very sensitive to energy so it really makes a difference you know once you are aware of who you are and how you respond to your to life in the navigate from that space of level of understanding yourself this brilliant thank you thank you for sharing knowledge I think maybe this is more of an actual Jenny for this one they just simply picking up a book and hoping that’s going to solve our problems I think it is definitely gonna require some level of daily work for this yes I’m using your own words here that you previously mentioned that you you kind of all over the place and in the things that you’re doing could you kindly give us an insight into what a day in the life is like for you oh my goodness a day in the life will I wake up extremely early am I like to operate when the world where I am is still pretty quiet %HESITATION but I am constantly learning about different things %HESITATION I’m in I teach sex education that’s what I do %HESITATION throughout the week %HESITATION with high school kids in the city where I live so I’m working on modules for the upcoming week I am going over questions that they ask a lot of them I give them a little box and I pass around the class I have a hundred and fifty kids this summer that according to my course date posted give questions to me anonymously and %HESITATION I’m not sure how it is there in London where you are but here in the United States sex education is not a U. eighty normalized curriculum or course in in public schools here and I’m really working on changing the conversation for that because we need it I see the feedback from the teens in the use here in the U. S. that they really want information they want %HESITATION information about how to protect themselves they want information about consent understanding that about %HESITATION this past week we did negotiation skills those are things life skills that will not of us ever ever really taught you know communication skills getting the foundation for that start early we both know communication skills are things that we have to evolve upon the route life but in the teenage years to have the opportunity to start learning communication skills and understanding with healthy and unhealthy relationships are and understand the carrot sticks of abusive relationships so I do that %HESITATION I still provide valuable insight to people who have children with special needs because that is still a passion of mine autism is still widely misunderstood autism is still very taboo and there are a lot of more holistic approach is to help kids with autism I worked in a program about four or five years ago in autism program in Virginia beach Virginia and it provided a lot of insight for me on how to approach with autism and and how to help them connect better with with people that are serving them in the school system serving them in the home and also about them when they get older me when they get older what are we what space that we have available for them what type of jobs are things that we have available in place for them so those are things that I’m working on %HESITATION I also do volunteer work I work in the nonprofit sector here I am helping to eliminate a lot of smoking environments where we are because the air pollution is is is pretty high where we are and %HESITATION we have a lot of places that still allows smoking in certain public areas where children are asked me is is a very high incident here in the area where I am so I’m involved in that I’m involved in a black chain chamber of commerce we are also educating the world about blockchain the things that are happening in that sector and how it’s going to revolutionize things in in the world %HESITATION with with all of that so I’m all over the place while really just everywhere and you do all of this in the same twenty four hours is as all of us and you know what black Jane yeah blacks say this typically webinars %HESITATION we have webinars I can’t always attend the meetings their meetings every day about blockchain throughout my city but I at the particular chamber that I’m in we do a lot of note similar to the Skype limits are popping if they have a meeting I try to find out you know what what they’re working on it how I can contribute %HESITATION the sex ed courses go on during the day I only teach for about an hour and a half because the kids are in the summer program so I come in and provide them with the need in their lives and take questions and then I move on but I am busy and I home school my daughter so I do that too it I’m maximize my day but I mean it it just flows I mean I’m just so happy to be alive to be here so it it doesn’t I never really get burned out I I have found a way to really just take it all in and and focus on things that I’m passionate about it because my intention behind everything is good %HESITATION it just flows it really does I love that I chill Olwen expend energy from may so it feels like you’ll got so much let your inspiration this this self service the selfless yes you just giving out and most of it is probably because of the addresses of come in your life to make you feel so grateful have you always been that a Colleen generous personal how’s life almost made you just appreciate everything you have to then go out and try to give more to the world %HESITATION you know I honestly I I think I’ve always been that way they had a lot to do with my parenting %HESITATION my parents did everything they could to keep me very grounded %HESITATION I I grew up in a in a it was a lot a lot and %HESITATION even though there were some things that occurred you know by parents or are not perfect but they they both do their very best to make sure that I stay grounded and date expose me to things where I was able to see that I was very blessed in the situation that I was in and they always made sure that I I remain humble %HESITATION so a really had to do with my parents in my eyes my parents again they they were great they have their own struggles but they truly %HESITATION embodied compassion and empathy in mice that my mother used to we will go to New Orleans they were children in the neighborhood who who who didn’t have a lot of food and they’re they’re I don’t know what their situations where because I was probably eight or nine years old I remember she would pack food for them and and give them food and and we would she was very passionate about the elderly community and senior senior citizens and she would spend time with them as he would take me with her and do all of those things so I grew up seeing it modeled in people in my life and so for me it was just natural it was part of being human I love it your mother sounds like an incredible lady she was housing and I gained some of those lessons that the compassion the empathy and stuff I have to be very grateful as well that that was instilled in me from my parents and this is probably one of the main things along with kindness to a one one day when I do have children T. just instilled in nothing that’s a hell of a lot more important than some of the things we think are important growing up in life such as the results that you get on an exam for example who’s got the best trade is what I mean that there’s more important things compassion empathy or not so that’s a beautiful on sat and just on not then what is your intrinsic and why you know what I do so much and I don’t expect anything in return and so I think that has a lot to do with that I just I want to see people happy I want to see people for Phil and I want to see people doing what they love I at throughout my life I have observed so many people who are unhappy and who were not enjoying life and it has it’s saddening sometimes to see that %HESITATION and then there it’s comes from people who you know who have gone through a lot but just to be alive you know that’s that’s just enough you know is just enough %HESITATION I just don’t take anything for granted %HESITATION at the I just don’t we have a lovely I think your intent is is so truthful and honest and I’m not sure if it’s something that maybe we would have to go through adversity to kind of gain that deception without clarity the fact that you want to see people happy you want to see for filled and seeing them do what they love that’s literally how are you try to be I mean all I’m AT my Jenny I am still learning I love it so much from you just in the short amount of time that we had together so very grateful for that and I don’t understand myself and I’m going to find a bit of a tangent here so excuse me but I see a lot of people especially on social media who pretends to have the intent that you have no I could feel it from you just right did you notice the second says that you’ve been through that your your because nobody who’s not pure would go out there and selflessly wake up early met the most of the day to be trying to make an impact in so many different areas of life which she feels that she can make an impact but in social media today after that we’re also in a society where people will on this mask and then they almost try and say the right things in order to gain fame more publicity %HESITATION more like a social media I mean really white it really dries my kids because I can see straight through somebody’s intent but you touched on something that was brilliant and is that you don’t burn I and I think when you come from a place of inspiration and you come from a place of just your passion you’re not going to bed not because you any Jesus bureau I mean I don’t have the science behind that to back it but I I believe that because I don’t have to get better %HESITATION when I’m working for most of the I’m passionate about but I feel that when I work for an organizational something with my values and ethics don’t align with it I struggle a struggle between ones so I think that’s a great message that you gave in this podcast is for people just to be honest with themselves again it comes back to self awareness of a kind of come full circle here that in life sometimes people are saying the buzz words because I feel that’s going to attract more likes and attention where is I’m just saying just be yourself there’s nothing wrong if you don’t want to change the world there’s absolutely nothing wrong with that if your house and your content in your field in your life then by all means just live that life but don’t try to be something that you’re not because I’m said finding it’s hard enough just be myself and try to figure myself I run and try to have a second personally so yeah a little bit of a run that but I just I just feel that you’ve you’ve gave so much and clarity and value dava been able to kind of connect the dots that hope you’re made about since two years ago is now yes thank you and I I totally agree you can definitely feel it and %HESITATION you know I’m I’m not in the business of of being negative on other people but I don’t like to see people being deceived you know that’s a big thing for me and that is that is where I I I said the self awareness I talk about that with my teenagers about being manipulated as did you have to be so in tune with yourself where you can see it coming a mile away I said it’s a different game in this world now you know there’s a lot of illusions that pretend to be the truth and you have to be on top of that and you have to trust yourself and if something doesn’t feel right if something doesn’t resonate then then don’t force IT don’t you know try to make it make it feel good and or to go with the flow but you’re right you fit you can sense that I I’m the same way in it if used to trigger me it really did but I feel that when you’re not operating from a space of integrity or a space of intent eventually it catches up with you it always does it always does I think I’m realizing that I think people who are trying to go for the short term gains will events short term yeah yeah absolutely but what was incredible they can really was as you said manipulation I literally wrote that would die some I’m not trying so if you hit the nail on the head is Zaki with them my thought process and I see in a society where people are taking advantage of people could because one I see people who already at a disadvantage anyway through the because of the man dell in life and it just really upsets me that there’s a but I did then trying to exploit these people and so by almost trying to sell people that they’re missing a key ingredient for example so you you’re having people setting courses for like two thousand pounds because if you really want to be successful you need this one thing so you need to come by my course and I’m just like Hey you could talk about it and I’m I’m trying to think that we need to let yourself is try to be more persuasive rod in trying to manipulate people but I think if people with self aware and use they got interested what you just said I think we definitely in a better place but yeah that’s that’s interesting thank you for that your welcome and just to add on that %HESITATION people prion in security and anytime that someone can make another person feel as if they are not enough then they open that door where they can say you’re not enough here’s what you need from me in order to you know and that I learned what I work in the nonprofit sector I’ll I observe that a lot of people go into underserved communities and they would do the photo ops they will go when under the agenda that they were there to serve and to help but it was really just to for their own personal gain it was either for notoriety and the people in the community what will begin to not trust in a will go away and then we will try to provide information and resources they would say well how long you going to be here because most people come in they collect data from us and they leave and so I saw that in real world experience and then for to see it on the internet now on social media is so much easier for people everybody’s looking for something and and they and then those who are preying on people they are out here doing it with with expectation of something in return whether it’s money whether it’s likes whether its followers but it’s not coming from the space of I am here to to provide value for you I don’t want anything from you and like you said the short term is a short term objective but is is the long term because I believe we’re all interconnected if we can provide value for someone it’s plants the seed that can alter their life life choices in their lifetime and they shouldn’t require anything from someone else you know just the energy exchanges enough you know that’s enough yeah can be this is this is exactly why I love this podcast on from from a sunfish perspective dot last three minutes not on twenty eight shows that’s probably the best three minutes to all I’ve been fortunate to have heard maybe because it resonates with me on a personal level so you said something that and I I got a bit emotional and and the heads of my home stood up because he said people pray on security and I fill in the last twelve months somebody who I considered very close to me prior mind security from mind’s eye you my shyness and it was almost led to believe that any of the success I have in the future was down to this one individual yes in hindsight when a simple thing can I think I’ve had to or that we can all I’ve got to overcome my fear is I’ve got to go and try to do public speaking and then embarrass myself because the words don’t come out and I’ve got all those reps in those I was in those sleepless nights but there was a time when I wasn’t as self aware %HESITATION realizing my own values always bring into the world and I didn’t believe that it was all done to this one individual one it was incredible how the how they I suppose it was be manipulated I’m to be honest and only share this on not to kind of broadcast this as this individual I’m trying to book classes to people who may be going through the same situation because I now sit here and I I feel hurt and I feel pain that I feel that the individual has loss probably one of the most low people on the road and that’s one thing that I would always try and be is is just a very loyal person to people even myself on this JWT person development six seven years I’m still landing everyday so am I on a selfish reason that really resonated with me massively and I hope it does for that for the laces are because I’m sure we’re all going to be coming into contact with people who we generally think have our best intentions are hot but deep down and their intent is not as pule and %HESITATION and I I truly believe that is all comes down to your intent yes it does it does so thank you for that and I’m gonna just flipped the script nice so I want to ask you have you been through so much adversity and since so much in your incredible story and you could talk about this for days just a shame that you’re on the other side of the road but what actually scares you in this moment what’s your biggest fear you know to be honest I almost want to say I don’t have any fears but I think for me there’s a inner urgency just to make sure that I do everything that I can in terms of my mission here before I leave here and and I don’t really know when that time will be but other than that I don’t really have any fears and I’m not afraid of death I’m not afraid of failure I’m not afraid of of of is there a being embarrassed %HESITATION I’ve shared a lot of personal things on my Instagram page that most people probably would not share out of fear of judgment I’m not afraid of judgment I’m not really afraid of anything and I think that that’s what my fuel is it’s like no one can say anything that can really take me out of my space and it it just it empowers it empowers me that I don’t have any really I don’t really have any fears of anything I just I haven’t always been this way though so now it has this has been a journey to get get this I used to be afraid of a lot you know but %HESITATION again I think the experiences that I’ve gone through have basically all of my fears that I had I had to face them so no thank you for sharing that thank you for mentioning that you wasn’t always like this because I I think when somebody and hopefully people after this show will be the definite gravitate towards you for you that might just think that it’s okay for Kimberly Camby’s got it all figured out what people don’t realize is everyone has a story and everyone becomes the way they are because of whatever is happening this previous chapters that’s kind of one of the purposes behind the show and if I’m completely honest now you’ve got me intrigued because I’m I’m kicking myself that I did it do you more stalking into your personal is around is my own you know put my hands up because I think Instagram we look at it and we look at pretty pictures it is not attracted us in the face to the second record of I scored away so I’m very interested not to kind of go back into your posts and the whole the listeners do as well because I’m sure there’s going to be a lot that we can all learn from not so %HESITATION definitely %HESITATION food for thought for myself thank you for that yeah I’ll you’re welcome yeah there’s there’s a ton of %HESITATION information I’ve been on Instagram since two thousand eleven and believe it or not the first three or four years of Instagram my page was totally private I I used to be a very private person and then %HESITATION one day something came to my mind and it said you you’re gonna have a lot that you need to do and you’re gonna have to reach a lot more people and opening your account is the only way be able to do it to know you with it you can that work and talk to people and really connect with other people and I just always been a very private person I’m totally on the different end of the spectrum now there’s nothing that I won’t share about my life for the most part I’m pretty much open but %HESITATION yeah there’s a ton of information there and I hope we can provide some value for people anything kind of watch my journey along the way over these years %HESITATION as well thank you and that’s the V. for thing about it and I feel not it should be Stephanie your G. eat to spread your light and spread your message as well so if I ever see you doing anything in private I’m gonna tell you off myself piston he make sure they put out into the road because yeah yeah lightning definitely okay can be rested on the part of the show now which I like to cool the from Polish %HESITATION where I’m gonna put you on the spot and ask you also as a way to win for questions so we’re gonna start in three two one what did you eat for breakfast %HESITATION nothing yet okay your biggest gift the ability to communicate the ability to fly %HESITATION be visible fly would you rather have a rewind button or a pause button on life but many of fame that’s not that’s a tough one money or fame because both provide impact I wish I would have to say money because I could do things anonymously and still make an impact without the fame I don’t want to sync your proudest moment becoming a mother your favorite food pineapple not fix the chief of man I used to pass down Kay your number one goal this year connect with more people that are international your favorite TV show ever you know what I was just talking about that yesterday I like Mister Rogers neighborhood there %HESITATION there’s like great value in wisdom and that would you rather know how you would die or when you are done when your favorite hobby apple in books or movies books if you could sit with one person in the road for an hour who would it be your last I love to pick his brain US there is a child was actually something happened to my parents that was my worst fear and finally if you could abolish one thing in the world what would it be I would abolish anything that would cause harm to children yeah I working with teenagers and knowing that a many of them are going through a lot or have been through a lot as a result of other people if I could if I could abolish any type of harm done to children because everything originates in childhood absolutely yeah thank you we are actually at the end right yeah brilliant okay so just a couple more questions can be from may and %HESITATION the next one I always like to ask my guess is about reflection so I’m a family even the whole inside is a wonderful thing in terms of it can teach just ways that we can get to places quick cash with less heartache Reza who all want to know is if you could knowing everything that you know knives go back to a time where maybe you will be and said no we’re not clear way you we’re going in life and whisper something in the younger Kim please yeah what would you say I would tell a younger Kimberly to trust herself yeah I would I would tell her to trust herself because there was a time when I would listen to what everyone else was saying my parents my friends and this is before social media so I can only imagine the at the feedback that people get now from strangers are from people that they don’t now but to trust myself trust myself UPS is going to be okay everything’s going to be okay love the love that thank you and sadly that she does bring us to the last question so if in a hundred fifty years time science vows to save us and all that exists is a book and this book it’s about you it’s about your life and all the way in a wonderful things that you’ve contributed to life and everything about you basically firstly what would the title of the book be and secondly what with the Blair but the back tell us about you the title would be everlasting touch mom and that the blurb on the back would have to be that S. the legacy is is is that compassion kindness connection %HESITATION embassy those and and love those are the things that that Kerry that that Kerry throughout human civil realization it’s it’s intrinsic of who we are it’s it’s wired in our DNA and %HESITATION and that’s that’s the touch that you know it goes through our address there are children it goes through us through people that we connect with I feel it through you and through and through the night you know it’s it’s the human value them up today how would you want to be remembered though as a person like what would you want the fasting that when somebody mentions your name that they say oh we can be yes she is sincere mmhm I think sincerity is something that people cannot imitate yeah or pretend sincerity sincerity hello love that thank you can release so %HESITATION so suddenly that she does bring this to the the end of the show is actually been one of my favorite shows and like I said this is a segment in here which really touch my heart and I’ve read so much just having this fifty minute conversation with you and I’ll definitely show to kind of follow your Jenny but what I want to do is give the audience a chance to connect with you as well because I I think your fascinating %HESITATION individual I think you you bring so much so much good into the world nothing you can do so much more as well moving forward so if you wouldn’t mind if you could just kind of give us the best places where people can perhaps reach out to you connect with you %HESITATION maybe just follow your Jenny sorry yes I am on Instagram as at Jackson K. ten I’d spell J. A. C. K. S. O. N. the number one zero and I also have another handle Instagram called you are the wealth that’s also the name of one of my businesses and %HESITATION I have a pod my podcast this call you are the wealthy can find it on all the podcast platforms as well and yeah that that the you are the well this is something that I recently created because again the self awareness in the self worth is something that I believe needs to be cultivated and and everyone and %HESITATION damp that damn on Twitter is you are the well I’m not much on Facebook so you’ll find me on Instagram or Twitter and then I have the podcast but but those are %HESITATION that that’s enough for me I think I spread myself too thin the family absolutely absolutely nothing you doing at TI much anyway although I say I say that in a positive way because everything the duties of the fantastic so thank you thank you for sharing those can be all set order the information in the show notes so on how the actual links there for anyone that needs to click on it I want to once again from the ball my hot thank can be for a time today more importantly everyone a hold thanks for listening thank you and thank you for what you’re doing as well it’s much needed thank you and remember this podcast is absolutely free so all we ask in return is for you to share this with a friend and drop us a five star review over on iTunes have an awesome day

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